Updated: Jun 30, 2020
“People inspire you, or they drain you—pick them wisely.” – Hans F. Hansen
Every day we come across several people with different personality traits. Some of these people make a lasting impression. These are the kinds of people you will consider stayong in touch with and eventually, these people turn into your friends, then possibly BFFs. It may seem that you make this decision based on both of your mutual interests, comfort, or need of the moment. But, unfortunately, sometimes it turns into a toxic relationship leaving you drained.
Apparently, a single toxic person can make you disbelieve your opinions, deframe your abilities, and shatter your dreams. Science also says that such negative people can even kill you. For that reason, you better avoid such types of toxic people by all means.
Here are the top 10 types of toxic people which you definitely should try to avoid or cut out from your life to take care of your mental health:
A research from Friedrich Schiller University in Germany shows just how serious toxic people are. They found that exposure to stimuli that cause strong negative emotions—the same kind of exposure you get when dealing with toxic people—caused subjects’ brains to have a massive stress response. Whether it's negativity, cruelty, the victim syndrome, or just plain craziness, toxic people drive your brain into a stressed-out state that should be avoided at all costs.
Studies have long shown that stress can have a lasting, negative impact on the brain. Exposure to even a few days of stress compromises the effectiveness of neurons in the hippocampus, an important brain area responsible for reasoning and memory. Weeks of stress cause reversible damage to brain cells, and months of stress can permanently destroy them. Toxic people don’t just make you miserable—they’re really hard on your brain too.
10 TYPES OF TOXIC PEOPLE TO AVOID AT ALL COST
1. THE PRETENTIOUS
These types only act as friends on comfortable terms. When you need their help they tend to go MIA (missing in action). They can’t be depended on.
It's best you recognize their pretentious traits and establish boundaries within such relationships.
2. THE GOSSIPER
"Great minds discuss ideas, average ones discuss events, and small minds discuss people."
– Eleanor Roosevelt
I once attended a seminar about mental health and how advertisements affect our subconscious minds more than we realize. There were about 100 people there. In one of the activities, the speaker divided us into 5 rows. The person right in front was told a piece of information which was whispered to them by the speaker. They were then supposed to spread that information down to the next person, and then the next person to the third person, and so on.
The objective of this activity was to see if the information that the last person receives, tallies with the information that the first person received.
Result? None of the information tallied in each row.
This just goes to show how information gets distorted everytime it flies from one person's mouth to another.
It might be fun to peer into somebody else’s personal or professional faux pas at first, but over time, it gets tiring, makes you feel gross, and hurts other people. There are too many positives out there and too much to learn from interesting people to waste your time talking about the misfortune of others.
So don't gossip about others and stay away from gossipers.
3. THE TEMPERAMENTAL
Some people have absolutely no control over their emotions. They will lash out at you and project their feelings onto you, all the while thinking that you’re the one causing their malaise. Temperamental people are tough to dump from your life because their lack of control over their emotions makes you feel bad for them. When push comes to shove though, temperamental people will use you as their emotional toilet.
There are also some of them that even go to the extent of getting physical with you. No matter what, no one should ever raise their hands or be violent with you. Talk, no touch.
If that happens, please don't stay silent. Get help, get the police, get protection. You don't deserved to get harmed, mistreated or disrespected.
4. THE ARROGANT
Don't confuse confidence with arrogance.
Being confident while leaving room to learn new things sometimes is a virtue. But being arrogant means you are full of yourself and believe you are better or superior to everyone around you. Being around someone who doesn’t treat you with respect but rather intimidates and belittles you can be toxic to your personal development.
More often than not, these people also always believe they are right, and won't admit they are wrong even if they know they are.
5. THE ENVIOUS
Such people appreciate your difficult times more than your periods of victory. They believe they deserve your moment of success and not you. Although you may try to make them your supporters and fans by letting them know they are a part of your success, the problem with such people is, they might just resent you for your humility and reasonableness.
This type should be avoided at all cost.
6. THE JUDGEMENTAL
Nothing is ever good enough for this type of person. They believe everyone should be criticized and scolded rather than praised. Even when intentions are good and you try to make them understand your genuine motives, they wouldn’t listen. They are terrible communicators since they are not good listeners. They don't understand the importance of listening with empathy.
Squashing their negative talk or avoiding their disdainful speech could be helpful to your progress.
7. THE CONTROLLER
This type is a control freak. They want you to their bidding.
You must do what they say if not they will make your life hell.
They can be devious, mischievous and sly in trying to twist or out-muscle you to fulfill their desires.
Rising above such people may be your best option since you really can’t convince or try to make them better.
8. THE LIAR
Who likes liars? These people are also hypocrites - people who say one thing and does another.
Need I say more?
9. THE PARASITE
Such people are only in your life to suck you dry and feed off of you. Being used can be helpful sometimes, but not with the parasitic. Their intentions are only for their self interest.
There was a guy who recently contacted me on my Instagram account (@trishrlee) to ask me if I had a job for him as a content writer. I told him no at the moment, however, he would probably be able to get some gigs through platforms such as Fiverr. He was thankful for the info, but then a few hours later, he replied and asked, "Could you spare me a few bucks?"
Don't ever let people take advantage of you. These types of people, make sure you keep them at a distance.
10. THE RACIST
A person who judges others by their skin colour, religion, gender, or ethnicity.
Refuse to have an open mind to understand other cultures better. Also, they tend to categorize people before even getting to know them.
It is totally not cool nor kind to judge one based on such points. Get to know people based on their moral values and personality before coming to a conclusion.
Once you’ve watched today's episode, I’d love to hear from you.
Which type of toxic person repels you the most and why? Are there any other types of toxic people that I didn't mention in this list? Do share your knowledge and experience in the comments below.
As important as it is to learn how to deal with different kinds of people, truly toxic people will never be worth your time and energy—and they take a lot of each. Toxic people create unnecessary complexity, strife, and, worst of all, stress.
Thank you so much for watching, sharing, and adding your thoughts.
Live strong, and have the courage to create a life you love because your happiness matters.
With SO much 💖,
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