Updated: Jun 8
Growing up I always had lots of dreams and goals that I wanted to achieve. I guess I have my mother's genes - a big dreamer through and through.
While there is nothing wrong to wanting to do many things and dream big, there are however some dreams which may not be the best fit for us but we persist anyway because we don't want to be seen as a failure or someone who gives up easily.
If you're questioning whether you should give up on a certain goal, if you are stuck in a job that doesn't make you happy or maybe your in an unfulfilling relationship but have chosen to stay silent for far too long, then do watch today's episode:
I wish I could tell you there was a simple, straight forward answer to this, but there isn't.
There is a multitude of factors to consider and key questions to ask yourself before you can come to such a critical decision.
#1 HOW ACHIEVABLE AND REALISTIC IS YOUR GOAL?
In one of my previous episodes, I shared about how to achieve success using SMART planning.
Smart stands for specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and timely. Personally, the 2 most important points out of these 5 are - achievable and realistic.
Do you have the resources for your goal? Time? Money? Skillset?
Is your goal realistic? Example, you hope to join the NBA at the age of 50 or becoming a professional ballet dancer after a month of dancing or finish writing 3 high content romance books in 1 week. None of these examples are realistic
If your goal is not achievable or realistic, then the truth is, you're setting yourself up for failure, which will bring a whole lot of disappointment.
If you can be honest with yourself, if all facts show that the goal is simply not possible, then perhaps it's time to either KIV the goal or set another goal.
#2 HOW MUCH ARE YOU WILLING TO SACRIFICE?
I once had a dream of owning my own music studio one day and at the age of 21, I did come across such an opportunity. I bought over a music studio with all the savings that I had. I had every intention to make it a great studio. Little did I know that the sound proofing wasn't up to standard. The previous owner who sold it to me lied to me that the studio was well sound proofed but in actual fact it wasn't.
I had to pump in so much money to redo the sound proofing for the entire studio that I nearly went broke.
The question is, was I willing to take a loan, bring myself deeper into debt?
Ask yourself, whatever goal you are trying to pursue, are you willing to sacrifice your time, money, and even health to achieve your goals?
What are you willing to sacrifice in order to achieve your goals?
Maybe you can achieve your goals after trying harder - but at what cost? Sacrificing your youth? Time with family? Risk of going into bankruptcy?
Take some time to really thing and ask yourself this question.
#3 DOES YOUR GOAL SERVE YOUR PURPOSE?
Every day presents new experiences, new information, new challenges. With that, it influences our thoughts and perception of things, that includes our goals.
Just because you set a goal 1 year ago, but somehow 1 year later, that goal doesn't seem relevant to you anymore, doesn't mean you can't change your mind and set a new goal.
Changing your mind and ending a goal, doesn't make you weak or a failure. It just means you are super brave to have the courage to be honest with yourself and to allow yourself to evolve with your life purpose.
Sometimes the goal or dream we desire to achieve, may not be as nice or dreamy as we thought in reality. That is why, I suggest it would be good to try out the goal for a month or so to see if it is really what you want. It's funny how we humans tend to want what we don't have, only to realize it's not what we want after we do have it.
If it is within your capacity to try out the goal for a few weeks or months, do it. That way you'll get a better idea if it is really what you want.
If your dream was to be chef at a restaurant, find out if it's possible to do an internship for a month or so just to get a feel of what the job is all about. If after trying it out, you find that it's not for you, then maybe being a chef can remain as a hobby and not as a full-time career. It doesn't mean you have to give up on your goals completely.
After you've watched today's episode, I'd love to hear from you, what was a goal you found it the hardest to let go? What drove you to let go in the end? How did you know letting go of that goal was the right thing to do? Do share with me in the comments below.
Thank you so much for your watching, sharing, adding your thoughts, and most of all - for being brave to be who you are.
Live strong, and have the courage to create a life you love because your happiness matters.
With SO much 💖,
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