Updated: Jan 13, 2020
Getting depressed is no fun emotion to experience, but sadly, it happens at times even to the best of us - me included. Whoever that feels depressed, I feel your pain. But I can safely say, you CAN overcome it and come out stronger from the experience.
Whenever you feel a little (or even if very) depressed or down, here’s the process to help give you overcome depression:
1. Acknowledge your emotions
Quite often when people feel depressed, they tend to either brush it off or pretend everything is fine, hoping it is just an “illogical phase” which will pass. Maybe they don’t want to be seen as a failure, or they don’t want the people they love to worry. These are the frequent traits I see in my clients. But by doing so, it only worsens the feeling.
Do the opposite. Take a minute to really reflect, calm your emotions, and identify What and Why you feel the way that you do. Only when you truly understand what is the trigger that caused your depression, can you then start the process of rectifying it.
2. Address the issue head-on
If you know there is a certain part in your life which you need to improve, whether it is your social life, health, career, family, relationship, or anything at all, make an action plan and face it with courage. Even if you tried and failed, try again.
If you know, you need to speak to someone in order to settle an emotional issue that’s seething within you - do it. You don’t need to lose your cool or get violent in order to put your point across. The objective is not to win the conversation, but rather, to find a cohesive solution with the other party.
If your happiness is important to you, then regardless of the obstacle, you WILL and CAN dig deep to face your fears, overcome depression, and find a solution.
3. Reflect, learn & grow
This point is critical. Once you feel lighter in your heart, always reflect on what can be learned from the experience, how you can potentially avoid it from happening again, and what you can do better to create a brighter, happier future for yourself.
4. Give joy to receive joy
The best and quickest remedy of all for instant happiness? Shift your focus away from your own emotions and onto giving others joy.
Just yesterday morning I was feeling a little down over a certain project that was not finished on time as what I had planned (I’m quite a perfectionist at times I admit. I’m working on it!). As I was on my way out of the post office with my baby girl in her stroller, I noticed an old lady having difficulty lifting a large parcel onto a countertop. To be honest, I was in a hurry.
Regardless, I decided to stop in my tracks, turn around, and went back in to help the woman. Her face instantly lit up and thanked me countless times for my help. Her emotions of gratitude and joy were passed onto me, and that instantly turned my day around.
I want to end by saying, YOU are not considered a depressed person for the rest of your life just because of a moment of depression. We ALL have our ups and downs, and go through a ton of emotions every now and then. It’s normal, you are only human, we all are.
You are not what you feel some of the time, but rather you are defined by what you do CONSISTENTLY. So whenever you feel depressed in the moment, remind yourself, depression has no power to rob you of your tomorrow or future if you CHOOSE not to let it.
I hope this helps :)
Have a blessed, awesome day ahead!
Sending you lots of light & love,
P.S. If you need some help (at no cost) for a certain issue that’s deeply troubling you or giving you depression, and you can’t seem to find a way out, feel free to ask me. I'm more than happy to help you.
P.P.S. Knowing when to ask for help is NOT weakness. If anything, it is a strength.