Tired of going through painful breakups? Ready to finally find a healthy and loving relationship?
If yes, then today's post is definitely something you must watch because not only will l be sharing with you about my countless heartbreaks and what was the key I learned, which helped me finally attract the love of my dreams.
PLUS! 🎁 I'm gonna be giving you a free Valentine's gift in today's episode that you wouldn't wanna miss
Can't wait to dive right in? Watch now:
MY JOURNEY OF ENDLESS HEARTBREAKS
If you've followed my YouTube journey, you would know that I've gotten my heart broken quite a few times - probably over 30 times.
Sometimes it was the guy who left me and sometimes I was the one who ended the relationship because I wasn't feeling fulfilled emotionally.
All these heartbreaks really took a toll on me. At one point in my life, I was just so sick of relationships and I trusted no one. Not men, not women, no one. I would say I lost all faith in life.
After taking some moments of solitude to just think, cry, reflect, and to learn from my experiences, I had an epiphany that really brought back so much hope and energy into my heart.
Here are the 3 key points I've come to learn and realize to finally find my very own healthy and loving relationship...
#1 BEING SINGLE DOESN'T MEAN YOU ARE UNDESIRABLE
When I was suffering from low self-esteem, I was so jealous whenever I saw girls in a relationship. I used to think that they were desirable and I was not.
They were pretty and I was not.
Here's the hard truth: Says who???
Who said I was undesirable? Me.
Who said I was not pretty? Me.
I was the one filling my own head with all these false, negative thoughts. Just because I wasn't in a relationship or because guys weren't knocking down my door.
The funny thing is after I had a tough "real-talk" session with myself, I realized how my own toxic thoughts and beliefs about myself created my toxic reality.
I didn't love myself enough or accepted myself enough to be in a healthy relationship. If I don't love me and I'm just a mix of problems, self-loathe, and negativity, who do you think would gravitate towards me?
Positive, happy people? Or negative people who saw themselves in me?
Naturally, the latter.
Because of my fearful mindset that I was undesirable and maybe no one would ever love me, I ended up saying "yes" to date any guy that came my way, even if they weren't quality guys who really cared about me
Time for a little cold hard truth that you need to hear:
YOU CAN'T LOVE OTHERS UNTIL YOU LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF
It starts with not only self-love, but also through self-acceptance.
Learn to accept all of you, both the strengths and your "quirks". There is truly no one else in this world that is exactly as unique as you.
That's what makes you - you. That is what makes you amazing and beautiful in your own way.
#2 YOU ATTRACT THE ENERGY YOU MANIFEST
If you believe you are not worthy of healthy love, then that's the reality you are creating for yourself.
If however, you believe that you are worthy of a beautiful kind of love, just like everyone else, then you know that you will not settle for any guy that doesn't know your worth or doesn't know how to treat you right.
You have the power to choose who you wish to have in your life.
Once I understood that I hold within me a force of energy, I understood that it is the energy and vibes that I emit into the world and to others that attract the same kind of energy back to me.
From a girl who didn't love herself, who felt sorry for herself, and having the fear of never being able to have a partner in my life, I emancipated into a confident woman who loved every stretch mark on my body, had a wave of quality guys knocking down my door, and, beyond my wildest dreams, had the courage to take part in two international beauty pageants and became a finalist in both of them.
I can very confidently tell you that the moment you understand that you are a magnet of energy and use that to work in your favor, your world will change.
#3 SKIN-DEEP VS HEART-DEEP
Don't fall for the trap of seeking guys with looks and wealth. Those don't last.
Focus on a person's personality and how they make you feel.
Do people change over time though?
Reality is, yes, people do change over time. However, their core moral values more often than not would stay with them until the end. Values such as how to respect women, not to be violent to others, to always treat others with kindness, and to be loyal in a marriage.
If you are serious about wanting a serious, positive, healthy relationship, then these are some of the qualities that you want to seek.
Once you’ve watched or read through this article, I’d love to hear from you.
What are the struggles you faced in your attempt to find a healthy and loving relationship? Do share your knowledge and experience in the comments below.
Share as much detail as you can. Many lovely souls come here for insight and inspiration. Your story may be just what someone else needs to have a major breakthrough.
As promised, here's my free Valentine's gift for you!
A beautiful self-love planner to support your self-love and self-acceptance journey towards a brighter, loving tomorrow for yourself ❤️
Use code "SELFLOVE" upon checkout to get this planner for free now!
Offer valid from 06.02.2020 until 18.02.2020.
Enjoy my dears! Happy Valentine's day in advance 😘
I really hope this article has helped you to realize that it all starts with you. Learn to love yourself first, and the rest will follow.
Thank you so much for watching, sharing, and adding your thoughts.
Live strong, and have the courage to create a life you love because your happiness matters.
With SO much 💖,
P.S. Have a question you’d love to ask me? Do give me your Q on my page Ask Trish Anything and I'll personally get back to you with some empowering steps to help guide you through your challenges. I look forward to serve and help you towards a brighter future, a future you've always dreamt of. Do give me your Q here.
Knowing when to ask for help and guidance is not weakness. If anything, it's a strength.
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