Blood is thicker than water - do you agree?
I used to have that belief when I was a child. That was why, though my own sibling was violent toward me when I was a child, I wouldn't speak up for myself or get help.


Perhaps for many of us, we find it especially hard to deal with a family member whenever they are unkind to us, simply because they are "family". We have this belief or mindset that:
Family comes first or blood is thicker than water. 


Not that these beliefs aren't good. But, they may not always be a healthy way of thinking.


What is the meaning of the word "family" anyway?
According to Google, it is all the descendants of a common ancestor. 
Perhaps legally speaking, in paper, a parent has the right to decide certain life choices for their child, and a married couple is to share their living space, assets, and life together.


But, in nowhere does it state that “family” has the RIGHT to put you down as and when they like or that you are CHAINED to them for life.


WHAT is a toxic family member?A toxic family member may try to persuade or manipulate you into changing your mind.
It can be someone who doesn't support your life plans.
Tends to puts you down a lot, or even dismisses and invalidates your feelings.


WHY DO THEY BEHAVE THAT WAY?It can be that they aren't aware or mindful of what they are doing or that the words they are using against you are hurtful. They can very well be behaving based on what they've learned or observed while growing up.
It could be that they don't have the mental maturity or emotional intelligence as you do on how to be empathetic and kind toward others.


Whenever a family member puts us down, we can choose to simply allow ourselves to get upset and ask ourselves questions such cas, "how could they say that? How could they hurt me like this? How could they be so heartless? I thought they are my family?“


In terms of moral values, yes, we might be taught to respect and love our neighbor, especially our family. But, think about it - how is it fair to expect that everyone should and will live up to a certain standard of moral values? It's like saying everyone should score 100% marks at school exams, if not, you aren't human.


Point is, humans aren't perfect. I'm not defending the person who hurt you. I'm only saying, that as I mentioned earlier, it isn't fair to place your level of emotional intelligence and maturity onto the other person. Everyone sees the world in a different way. 
Therefore, to expect others, even if they are family, to treat you how you think they SHOULD. Placing your personal expectations on others will only cause you pain and frustration.


HOW to handle a toxic family member?Make sure to find the right time to speak to them. I mean a suitable time where both of you are in the right state of mind to talk about emotions, not when you are tired or angry, or when they are busy rushing work for example.


When you're having the talk with them, share in a neutral way how their actions or words made you feel. Share with them you would appreciate it if you said or did something wrong, they can gently point it out and you will do your part to work on yourself. On their part, you'd appreciate it if they are more mindful of their actions, the words they use, and how they deliver their message to you.


💡One important tip here: Try to resist the urge to bring up the past to spite them. Bringing up the past never helps produce a healthy conversation nor will it bring about any solutions to help you both move forward. 


What if they don't care and continue to hurt you?There is no real right or wrong way to handle a toxic family member. No one can tell you when enough is enough because everyone's tolerance is different or when you should remove them from your life. 
There is only a question of what can you live with at the end of the day? Would you regret your decisions? Your words?
Whatever you decide to do, just ensure you take the time to think it through before SPEAKING or TAKING ACTION


I understand we all want to be loved and liked by everyone. But it is simply impossible. So please don't think badly of yourself if someone can't get along with you or doesn't think well of you. What they think, is their problem. It doesn't define you.


Also, no matter whether things improve or not, and you decide to distance yourself from your family member, please remember to forgive and move on. Holding on to pain and anger will not serve you in any way. Choose to forgive, not because you tolerate their behavior, or that you SHOULD be good buddies with them because they are "family". Choose to forgive them, simply because you value your happiness and inner peace more than being right.


I do hope you found this video helpful in dealing with a toxic family member.


Remember to take care of you.
Truly,
Trish
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Affirmations are positive, specific statements that help you to overcome self-sabotaging, negative thoughts. They help you visualize, and believe in, what you’re affirming to yourself, helping you to make positive changes to your life.


There is a strong belief as well as skepticism in whether or not #affirmations work. A culmination of research suggests that affirmations work better for some than others. The use of affirmations can reinforce the core concept of we are all unique and we should honor what feels most nourishing on an individual level.


To quote the wise words of Buddha: What we think, we become.
Or, maybe the words of Anthony Robbins, well-known author and life #success coach, resonates more with you: Whatever you hold in your mind on a consistent basis is exactly what you will experience in your life.


Muhammad Ali said: It’s the repetition of affirmations that leads to belief.


And once that belief becomes a deep conviction, things begin to happen.


Without exception, #positiveaffirmations are something I turn to whenever my energy is low and doubt starts to kick in. Affirmations help to get me in the right #mindset before I coach clients, go for professional meetings, and public speaking events. It helps me to ease frustrations and to simply create a positive outlook on life.


What about you? Do you often use affirmations in your everyday life? Which was your favorite affirmation in this video? I'd like to hear your thoughts in the comments below.


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It’s said that most employees don’t leave companies, they leave bosses. A direct supervisor can affect the way an employee sees a job and how much motivation they have.


When you’re dealing with an unnecessarily toxic boss, leaving the company might not be an option. The only decision left for you, is to handle the destructive relationship yourself, and take care not to cause unnecessary drama within the workplace. But dealing with a #toxicleader effectively is sometimes easier said than done.


So what can you do about it?Check out this video to learn some useful strategies that can help you cope with a bad boss.
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Have you ever worked for a toxic boss before? ☠️ How did you deal with them?
I’d love to hear your experience in the comments below.


Use these strategies and start to build a healthier and happier work relationship with your boss. You got this!


Truly,
Trish
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Are you measuring your self-worth fairly? ⚖️ If you haven’t, it’s time you do.
Your self-worth isn’t defined by your job title, age, grades, possessions, income or number of followers on social media. It’s defined by the kindness you give to others and what YOU think about YOURSELF.


By measuring our self-worth based on external factors and material things, not only will we never feel truly fulfilled in life, we won’t ever be able to feel TRUE HAPPINESS.


If you’ve:-worked very hard all your life
-tried to gain more friends
-tried to earn more #money
-tried to be skinny
-tried to gain more followers
-bought excessive amount of things (that you don’t actually need)
-tried to be perfect
-tried to be the best at work or school


and yet… you still don’t feel worthy or satisfied with your life, it’s time to shift the focus AWAY from yourself and onto OTHERS in need.


The more we:-give a helping hand to others;
-do selfless acts of kindness;
-learn to care less about what other people think of us;
-the more we value our whole self;


the more our hearts and souls will be filled with meaning, joy, and a high sense of self-worth.


"If you light a lamp for someone else, it will also brighten your path."- Buddha

To boost your sense of self-worth and self-acceptance, try out this worksheet:

💡Question for you:What is one thing you love about yourself? I’ll start the ball rolling…
I love the fact that I can laugh at myself when I make a mistake, learn from it, and move on.


Now it’s your turn :) Let me know in the comments below.


Enjoy your day friends 🌻
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Dysfunctional teammates not only damage the results of a whole team, they also drain your MENTAL and EMOTIONAL energy.
The most common and destructive toxic behaviors include:

• Backstabbing
• Criticizing and blaming
• Gossiping and spreading rumors
• Agreeing in meetings but not following through afterward
• Hoarding information
• Purposely undermining others
• Caring only about personal agendas (not team and company goals)

Many people who have toxic colleagues say that they feel powerless to change peer behavior.
In fact, some end up just leaving the team or company after the impact becomes insufferable to them.
If you are dealing with a toxic colleague, watch this video to learn four ways on how to deal with them effectively.
I’d love to hear about your experience. How do you deal with a toxic colleague?☠️ Let me know in the comments below.
💡 Gentle reminder: 
The less you respond to negative people, the more powerful your life will become.

Don't let toxic people run your day, take control of your life and WIN YOUR DAY.


Truly,
Trish


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You will never “have time”, you simply have to MAKE TIME ⏰ How many times have you told yourself “I don’t have time for…”?? Probably very often.


I’m guilty of this too at times. The cold hard fact which we don’t like to hear but know deep down to be true, is that we simply DON’T prioritize ourselves enough.

Let’s change that starting today with little baby steps, ok? 😉


Here are 5 great ways you can make more time for yourself:

​✔️ Learn to delegate (Don't be afraid to ask for help!)
✔️ Say "NO" to activities that drain energy and time
✔️ Get organised and a place for everything (Avoid those frustrating searches for misplaced essentials.)
✔️ Take five (Spend 5 minutes every day doing something you enjoy, then gradually extend it to 10, 15 minutes, and so on.)
✔️ Down-size your tasks (Look at your weekly tasks and see if you can remove any tasks which is not a necessity.)
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Try out these tips and start taking baby steps toward making more time for #selfcare! If you don’t take good care of you, who will?


What about you? What other ways would you suggest to make time for self-care?
Do share your thoughts in the comments below 💭
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Stop feeling guilty and get excited to take your own mini mental vacation.


Truly,
Trish


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Experiencing a little stress at work isn't always bad, but when to know you're experiencing TOO MUCH stress?


Stress isn’t always bad. A little bit of stress can help you stay focused, energetic, and able to meet new challenges in the workplace. It’s what keeps you on your toes during a presentation or alert to prevent accidents or costly mistakes.


But in today’s hectic world, the workplace too often seems like an emotional roller coaster. Long hours, tight deadlines, and ever-increasing demands can leave you feeling worried, drained, and overwhelmed. And when stress exceeds your ability to cope, it stops being helpful and starts causing damage to your mind and body—as well as to your job satisfaction.


You can’t control everything in your work environment, but that doesn’t mean you’re powerless, even when you’re stuck in a difficult situation.


If stress on the job is interfering with your work performance, health, or personal life, it’s time to take action. No matter what you do for a living, what your ambitions are, or how stressful your job is, there are plenty of things you can do to reduce your overall stress levels and regain a sense of control at work.


Watch this video to understand the difference between acute vs chronic stress, how these 2 forms of stress can affect your health, as well as when it might be time for you to find a new job opportunity.


I’d love to hear about your experience at work. Is your work stress reasonable or over-the-top overwhelming that you can't stop thinking about it even after working hours?


Let me know in the comments below.


“The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.”~ Stephen Covey

Prioritize your #mentalhealth and take good care of you 💛
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Trish


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If you answered mostly A, you're more competitive with others, put yourself first and are therefore less suited to collaboration. You're in the zone of being the best. Because you're often distracted by who's in front and who's behind and because let's face it, it's hard to know whether you ever really are "the best," it's likely you feel disappointed and stressed out.
If you answered mostly B, your ambition is of the kind favored by corporations. You may be driven, but you're still able to collaborate with others. You're more about doing your best. Because, instead of competing with other people you are setting your own benchmarks for success, it's likely that you feel more relaxed and in control.


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Furthermore, is there ever really “the best” in anything? What deems to be the best is relative to one’s opinion. Think about it…


Whether it’s:
⚡️ One’s beauty
⚡️ Fashion
⚡️ Sense of humor
⚡️ Phones
⚡️ Software
⚡️ Technology
and so on.


What one person believes to be “the best”, may not hold true for another.


Strive to continuously become better in anything you do and focus on doing YOUR BEST because learning never ends and trying to be the BEST of the BEST is self-destructive.


Do share your thoughts with me, what are the ways we can focus on giving OUR best instead of allowing our over competitive side to take over? 💭
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"Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.”
-- Maya Angelou


Have a nice day everyone.


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